This episode is about making self-serving decisions. Todays caller, Renae, is married, and questioning whether or not her marriage has reached its expiration date. As you can hear in the call, Renea intuitively knows what she should do but she needs to be empowered so she can take action. Do all relationships where one person is on the growth path, and the other person isnt, have an expiration date? Not necessarily. There is no one-size-fits-all approach to know when its time to leave a relationship. When there is abuse, addiction, or toxic behavior, or the other person is unwilling to invest in the relationship, you have to be honest about why you are still in this type of relationship, and whether it is really serving your highest good. When it is time to evaluate a relationship, or when its time to end it, be honest with yourself and listen to your intuition. You may already know the answer. When we seek counsel with others, we want to hear from someone else what we may already know. Sometimes we are looking for someone to give us permission. If you are a parent who feels they may have messed up their kids, your fear is not helping you or them. What does help is to help them learn how to make self-honoring decisions. You should start equipping them with the personal development tools and mindset to help them break generational patterns, and to not personalize the situation. Children shouldnt feel that anything was their fault. And, actions speak louder than words. We must give someone the dignity of the process but honor our own boundaries. Dont be a victim. Consider Al-Anon, and find other people you can connect to. Dont bond over wounds, but find other people who understand your background. It will help empower you. If you are looking for support, encouragement and love, my Personal Mastery Course, Over It and On With It is the most comprehensive virtual coaching program I have. You receive 6-weeks of personalized coaching with me, guided meditations, videos, and I engage with you on Facebook Lives and in group coaching calls. This course is starting in October, and its only offered once per year. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you questioning your current relationship? Are you in, or did you grow up in, an abusive environment? Do you know what to do, but wish someone would give you permission to do it? Have you been attempting to change someone else, but realize the most important person to focus on right now is yourself? Renaes Question: Renae wants to know if she should stay in her current long-term relationship. Renaes Key Insights and Ahas: She grew up in an environment of physical and verbal abuse. Her husband is verbally abusive to her and her children. She doesnt focus on herself. Her 15-year-old daughter wants her to get a divorce. Shes afraid to make the wrong decision. She recognizes she needs to change her life and to give her kids a different environment. Shes known what to do, but needed validation to move forward. How to Get Over It and On With It: She needs to make a decision to break patterns and to change things. She needs to start documenting abuse. She needs to stop beating herself up, and practice self-love and self-care. She needs to believe in herself, and give herself positive encouragement. Takeaways: If you are questioning your relationship, ask yourself, What is this relationship teaching me? What patterns do I need to complete? Could it be time to go? What do I need to do to make a shift? If you are a parent, and feel that your children have seen things in your life or marriage that have been tough and they are struggling, get them help! You cant be their therapist, counselor, or coach. They may need an objective person they can talk to, and to give them new tools. My Inner Circle community can be a great place to find the love and support from people who know what you are feeling. Sponsor: Daily...
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